The Give And Take Of Marriage

Two posts in a row!  Haven’t done this in a long while.  But, as I said yesterday, I seem to write when something strikes me.

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When you sleep with a woman (Yes, I actually mean sleep) you tend to get to know her fairly well.  For instance…

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I know if I wake during the night and I don’t hear her breathing deeply or snoring, she is likely awake.  Worrying about something bothering her.  Normally she is a good sleeper, but at times the mind races and won’t allow rest.  Unfortunately, this is the norm for me.

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She is not a big snorer, but at times she can get quite loud.  I don’t know why.  Snoring can be attributed to being overweight, but she definitely is not.  She is the fittest 48yo I know, hell… she’s the fittest 20 year old I know.  About two years ago she ran a local 5k and beat the (fairly large school) high school cross country team girls!  Yes, I’m proud of her.

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Last night I was tired myself and drifted off to sleep before she made it to bed when she finished her nightly bedtime rituals.   Some time later, have no idea what time it was, I woke up and heard it quiet over there.  I knew something was up.  I rolled over and saw her awake, rubbing her head and face as if frustrated.  Without saying a word, I rolled over and pulled her to me.  She turned her back to me and pushed her back side against mine and began grinding.

Nature took its course and after we were both finished, within a minute (of finishing), I heard her heavy breathing begin signaling she was asleep.  This is common for her, she’s like a man in that way.  After a good orgasm, she’s asleep in minutes.

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Bettie Paige from 1950’s At Home Magazine…

I smiled to myself knowing what I had done for her.  I was tired and really not in the mood right then (a rarity), but marriage is about making sacrifices at times.  Providing what each other needs even when we don’t feel like it.  She has surely done such things for me over the years.  At times, I wake up with a need, or simply can’t sleep and she has done the same for me.  Knowing how much she likes her sleep I know it is a sacrifice…

This morning she was showering, getting ready for work and I asked her if she slept okay.  She replied,

“Yeah, after you sexed me to sleep.”  (She’s not one to use the “F” word much)  “It was like a sleeping pill.  I just could not fall asleep last night.”

I smiled and as I entered the shower with her I kissed her in the forehead and said, “You’re welcome.”

She rolled her eyes at me and threw suds at me,  “You have such a big head.”

I answered, “Yes, and you should thank it for putting you to sleep last night.”

More suds…

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In a marriage, you are going to have to do things you don’t want to at times.  Some things will be more enjoyable than others, but you have to do them all for it to work.  You do not have to be a doormat, you are allowed to, and should say no at times.  However, understanding that marriage is not all strippers and tacos is key to figuring out how to make it work.

Sometimes, passive aggressiveness and spite prevents us from being giving, but in the end all that will bring is, the end…

Be a man of action to make it all work.

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How I feel today…


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