I’ve been away for awhile. I even had my site set to private for a bit. I’ve spent a lot of time considering where I want this blog to go.
When I began this blog (this time) I envisioned sharing what has worked for me in getting the marriage, relationship and sex life I’ve wanted. The problem is how I got here does not match what men have been taught women want. I have discussed in previous posts the great divide between what women say they want and what they really want.
The funny thing is I envisioned having a primarily male following, yet most of my followers are female. Which is awesome, I love that, but it just surprises me.
As I thought of ways to get more male followers and readers, I remembered reading somewhere in order to get more interest in your website or blog you should go to related sites and comment on their content. It had more to do with marketing and trying to make sales off your site (I don’t sell anything) but I figured the same principle would work here. Only as I searched for similar blogs, I found few to… none… Most of them were too far to the right, almost to the point of hating women, or men who have good content but vehemently advise against marriage, or too religiously based. Another big topic is married swingers or swapping. Admittedly, the idea sounds good, but the thought of another dude fucking my wife sickens me. Hotwife/cuckolded men has a huge presence for some reason I do not understand. None of these were places I wanted to remain or fit my vision.
If any of you have any good married relationship/sex blog suggestions please share!
I am not educated in marriage counseling (or much else for that matter), nor do I claim to be an expert. However, I know the steps I have taken and what has worked for me. I was able to turn a marriage filled with unspoken disappointment and passive aggressive behavior to one of communication and happiness. I just got back from a seven day vacation where we had sex every day. On the day we got back I figured she needed a break so I put her to bed and went back out to watch a little TV. However, I soon heard a voice call out, “Where are you Dad?” (She calls me Dad, it’s a pet name held over from when the kids were young, but now I just find it sexy). She wanted more, so I of course obliged.
This may be regular for some of you, and really it is for us nowadays. But, It wasn’t always this way. Sex has been a struggle for us since the beginning. Marriage didn’t help, kids didn’t help, the only thing that helped was reaching down and grabbing my nut sack, becoming the man that came naturally but I tried to suppress fearing it would offend my wife. Only I found it was just what she was waiting for. She wanted leadership in and out of the bedroom. That’s all that was missing. I believe it is what’s missing in many marriages today both unhappy and failed.
My goal is to share what worked for me… for us… As I lay on the beach last week I decided to go with the Field of Dreams catch phrase,
“If you build it they will come.”
I will continue to write about what is working and what isn’t. Things I observe and what I see as possible successful strategies as well as failures. I hope I don’t offend my female or Christian followers in my observations, that is not my intention. However, there was a time when I was one of those who may have read something about what it takes to build a successful marriage and been offended. I was also an unhappy man who spent way too much time with rosy palm, alone in the glow of a laptop screen. A sad existence to say the least…